Masturbation And Pornography: The Inherent Benefits And Dangers!

According to the Advanced English Dictionary, “masturbation” also known as “onanism” is the “manual stimulation of the genital organs (of yourself or another) for sexual pleasure.”
While on the other hand, “pornography” also known as “blue-film” is the “creative activity (writing or pictures or films etc.) of no literary or artistic value other than to stimulate sexual desire.”
Having got a background knowledge of the meaning of the two terms MASTURBATION and PORNOGRAPHY, I would like to dispassionately highlight the inherent BENEFITS and DANGERS attached to both terms!

1. Benefits of Masturbation

1. Controls your libido and helps maintain a healthy sex drive.
2. Re-awakens your sexuality.
3. You learn how you want to be touched and made to love to, hence, you are able t0 guide your partner on how to effectively satisfy you during sexual intercourse.
4. Helps you to love and appreciate your body and sexuality better.

2. Benefits of Pornography

1. Sex Education: It teaches you different methods you can employ to effectively satisfy your partner, sexually. You both can equally see a Sex Coach like myself to better guide you through if you are still experiencing difficulties.
2. An external foreplay: This in anticipation of the actual sex about to be indulged in with a partner.
3. Spices up your sex life: A typical example is Live Adult Entertainment that you can attend with your spouse is the SensualBooth Lifestyle Party happening on June 10, 2022 >CLICK HERE TO FOR TICKET & INFO< . Upon, your return from such an event, if you don’t both tear at each other’s clothes to have an amazing exhilarating sex session, then I think that marriage/relationship would soon hit the rocks! You may opt to see a seasoned Marriage Councilor and Sex Therapist/Coach, like myself for help or choose to break up if you no longer find peace there!

Now, we have seen the benefits of indulgence of the two aforementioned terms which form the crux of this article. Kindly note that moderation is key in every of life’s endeavour. These aforementioned terms, inclusive! 

Over indulgence leads to various mild, semi-mild and extreme cases which I will look into in the next couple of paragraphs.

3. Dangers of Masturbation and Pornography

1. Addiction: This is the number one inherent danger for anyone who over indulges. When you find yourself drifting towards addiction, you give yourself a break. Get yourself immersed in either more office work/studies or/and seek volunteering projects around that you can indulge in. When you do not have much time on your hands, you would not find enough time to indulge.
2. Loss of Sexual Interest: When addiction to Masturbation and Pornography sets in, loss of sexual interest in a partner sneaks in. The addiction steals your sexual joy away by gradually stripping you off your emotional feelings for your partner! You would prefer to either mutually masturbate or indulge in solo masturbation than to indulge in regular sex.
3. Loss of Concentration in Work, Business or Studies: Addiction when it reaches its peak, makes you lose interest in your chosen career, business and academic ventures. All you think about is sex, masturbation and porn. Grades drop, business targets left unattained, many jobs left undone on your work desk, etc.! You basically lose focus.
4. Melancholy: Depression is the end product of such addictions. You shut yourself out of the world mentally. You just want to be alone doing nothing but brooding and wanking and seeing porn and then it becomes a pitiable daily cycle! 

In conclusion, now you know the dangers inherent in such indulgence, it’s best to abstain if you do not have the requisite self-control to indulge. And even if you do but find yourself drifting, use the caution mode in section (3a) or see a therapist if you are not able to put it in check. Occasionally, we often over indulge in certain things we do, so the topic in this article is not an exception. Knowing your boundaries is key, here.

I must reiterate that this topic is for those already comfortable with the act (for its beneficial purposes) and not for those inhibited by the shackles of religion and cultural values. Once, you uninhibitedly indulge in any action against your indoctrinated beliefs and customs, you are bound to condemn yourself (even though it’s not an addiction), and you may sooner or later become a victim of section (3d) of this article.

I thank you for taking the time to read through this expository article. If you are an individual battling with the negative effects of Masturbation and Pornography, kindly seek the help of a therapist (I am readily available, though)! Couples whereby the negative effects of Masturbation and Pornography one either of them is affecting their sexual bliss, should kindly connect with Dr. Ray.

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I am Dr. Ray, an Asian-Trained Masseur (Male Massage Therapist), Sex Therapist, Trainer, and Homeopathic Dr. I am also the CEO of Ray’s Sensual Calls Spa – A leading Mobile Spa that has carved her niché in the Adult Leisure and Entertainment Industry in major cities of Nigeria and beyond!

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