In cutting our sexual feelings, we diminish our overall ability to feel.
Understanding, embracing, and exploring from a place of information and deep knowing moves is towards true sexual freedom.
If you are ever feeling like you are not totally sexually free, these 6 simple tips will help you move towards sexual freedom.
- Do Things That Make You Feel Good
This is an absolute must. What makes you feel beautiful, sensual, or just plain confident? This could be taking a bubble bath, going on a sunset stroll, or it could be dancing.
For most of our day, we concentrate our energies in our heads rather than our physical senses. Even when we have sex, we focus only on our genitals. Give yourself time to focus on the body, and give way to your senses.
- Look At Yourself Naked
Most of us limit our time spent undressed, often times out of shame, embarrassment, or insecurity. The body is natural, functional, and amazing. Admiring those qualities should not be taboo. The more time you spend naked, the more comfortable you will be with the idea-and, most likely, with your body, and the more comfortable you are with your body, the easier it becomes to own your sexual expressions and desires without shame or guilt.
- Get Comfortable With The Idea Of Being Single
So many people are unable to fully express and own up to their sexuality because they are afraid of doing it with someone who doesn’t see them worth the wife label! Drop that! Coupled relationships are great, but the most important relationship you can ever have is the one you have with yourself and your desires. You are not a commodity that must be claimed for your life experiences to unleash. You can create and unleash whatever experiences you desire for yourself and that includes your sexuality.
- Freely Touch & Let Yourself Be Touched
All touch sensations are engaging and nourishing to your body, whether it’s erotic, platonic, or just therapeutic. Give hugs, get massages. Once again, this is really about gaining comfort with yourself. You will learn to open yourself up to intimacy, on both the giving and receiving ends.
Touch is so vital to how we feel and even how we perceive the world around us. The more we expose ourselves to touch, the more comfortable we become with it. The same is true if we go without touch-we can easily become frigid and mentally want to avoid contact (even though this is what the body craves). All of these causes unfulfilling sexual Experiences.
- Free Yourself From Media Standards Of Sex
There are so many false ideas out there about how sex and sexuality “should” be. The truth is that most of what is in movies is not very representative of real life.
Sexuality is so utterly complex. It can be very fluid and very gray, so comparing your experiences never turns out well. Not to mention the fact that media overload can desensitize us sexually.
Sexuality can be just as mental as it is physical, so let your mind wander and your creativity flow. Dream up your own ideas of what sexuality looks like to you and reject societal norms if you don’t feel like they fit within your life.
- Create A List For Yourself
Learn to listen to your instincts and acknowledge your desires, no matter how crazy or embarrassing you think they may be.
Write them all down and then commit to them. Maybe not all at once, but a little at a time you can begin to assert your wants and actually heed them.
It doesn’t matter whether a romantic partner is involved or not-this exercise is helpful for anyone because you will become more conscious of your wishes and more willing to put them into practice.
